Ian Tolino has a presentation he gives to fellow frat brothers about sexual assault. It starts with finally getting young men to listen.
By Danielle Paquette October 29
Editor’s note: The fraternity featured in this piece agreed to let the Washington Post report on this session under the condition that it would not be named.
Ian Tolino stands in the fraternity basement in College Park, Md., facing 57 brothers. They sit in a half-oval around him, shoulders hunched, fiddling with phones. He recognizes this posture, the collective eye-roll: Why do I have to be here?
He felt the same way, three years ago, when some guy visited his fraternity to talk about rape. Like tonight’s presentation, it was mandatory. Only one detail that day shook Tolino awake, a statistic from the Department of Justice: One in five college women will be sexually assaulted before graduation.