A Woman’s Perspective
First – I’d like to say that I joined this nonprofit project at the prompting of two men. These two men were not – to say the least – the types of men that I would expect to approach me with a project as sensitive as Affirmative Consent, but I didn’t realize how effective this project could be until they started explaining their own perspective on the subject.
I LOVED that these men were interested in helping to change the conversation. I loved that they were watching guys, just like them, acting like they did back when they were in college, and they wanted to change the culture of consent. And, I especially loved that they approached me to help them CHANGE THE CONVERSATION. Of course I said yes.
When we first started discussing what would later be labeled ‘affirmative consent’, California hadn’t even come to the forefront of what is going to prove to be groundbreaking legislation. We were just reeling from the problems at Florida State (FSU), and then also finding out that there were no less than FIFTY other schools that are also under Title IX investigation due to attacks on women.
Every day there is a new story about how colleges, the Department of Justice, and Congress are calling out the problems with our student judicial system. They are finding ways to address the issues that face students every day, and how we are not equipped as a society to deal with them – YET.
The initial plan for this project was to come up with a way for men and women, especially during the fast-paced, party driven college years, to be able to communicate in a new way when it comes to having sex:
- when things are heating up:
- you’re young, and;
- both of you are feeling the need to ‘hook up’ college style.
But then, something else happened. We began to realize that there was a bigger picture. The news was changing, legislation was being written (CA SB 967), and the story was becoming a referendum about the way men and women interact – at all ages. How they have to learn to communicate, and the fact that the: Conversation has to Change.
That’s when AffirmativeConsent.com began to take a new shape. We are now building a resource that we hope will change a paradigm. We are trying to move the culture forward.
Please use our information, to learn, to grow, to communicate, to talk.
AffirmativeConsent.com was built to assist a movement. Everyone is watching.
The Conversation is Changing.