12.25.15 | Suzannah Weiss
More and more people and laws are encouraging affirmative consent, the standard that considers only a "yes" to constitute sexual consent, not just a lack of "no." But not everyone's on board with that. People often argue that communication in the bedroom "kills the mood," and unfortunately, we don't always see people asking for "yes"es in movies or TV shows, perpetuating the myth that silence is sexy. In fact, we often see scenarios passed off as consensual because there wasn't a "no" — and sometimes, as we saw on Game of Thrones and Girls, even scenes that do include "no"s are hotly debated.
Getting a "yes" doesn't have to be uncomfortable or un-sexy. In fact, asking for consent can help the mood by making it easier for your partner to relax and feel secure, no matter how the question is posed. But in case you feel like communication takes you out of the moment, these scenes prove it doesn't have to.